“Can’t wait to see you tonight”: Woman oversees flirtatious text from coworker on husband’s phone, he promises to be true to her but she contemplates divorce anyway

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    AITAH for wanting to divorce my husband after finding out he cheated on me with his co-worker?

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    So here's the deal. I (F, 32) have been married to my husband (M, 34) for 7 years. We've always had a pretty good marriage, or at least that's what I thought. Like, we've had our issues, sure, but nothing I thought would lead to this. He's always been loving, and I've always trusted him... or at least, I did.
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    Last weekend, we went out grocery shopping, and on the way back, he decided to stop at the petrol station to fill up the car. I stayed in the car since I was checking something on my phone. Normally, I wouldn't snoop through his stuff, but for some reason, I noticed his phone buzz on the seat. I don't even know why, but something just felt off, so I picked it up.
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    I didn't expect anything weird, but the moment I saw the message preview, my heart dropped. It was from someone named Sara a co-worker of his. I recognized the name but never thought much of her before. The message said, "Can't wait to see you tonight."
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    I froze. I mean, who the his this? And why is she sending messages like that to my husband? I felt like I couldn't breathe. I know I should've just put the phone down, but I didn't. I unlocked it and read through the whole conversation. It was all flirtatious, dirty texts. He was sending her all this stuff, and it
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    was clear they'd been seeing each other for a while. I could barely see straight. My whole world just fell apart.
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    When he came back to the car, I didn't say anything at first. I was just numb. We drove home in silence. But when we got inside, I just couldn't hold it in anymore. I asked him, straight up, "Are you sleeping with Sara?" His face went white. He started stammering, trying to deny it at first, but eventually, he admitted
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    to everything. He said it was a "mistake" and that it wasn't supposed to go this far, but it did. He begged for my forgiveness, promised he'd cut all ties with her, said he was sorry and it would never happen again. But all I could think was, How could you do this to me?
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    I was just... devastated. I didn't know what to say, and I couldn't even look at him without feeling sick. I asked for space to think things over, but now it's been days, and I just can't get past it.
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    I don't know if I can forgive him. I don't know if I can trust him again. I feel like everything we built was just a lie. He's been apologizing non-stop, telling me he loves me and that he'll do whatever it takes to make it right. But it doesn't change the fact that he betrayed me.
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    I've been thinking about divorce a lot, but then I feel guilty. Maybe I'm overreacting? Maybe I'm just too hurt right now and need time to process? I love him, but I'm so angry and hurt, and I just can't stop thinking about what he did.
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    So, AITAH for wanting to divorce him after finding out? Or should I give him a chance to make things right? I'm so lost right now.
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    Candid Process1831 • 6h ago NTA! Divorce his a quick, a cheater always a cheater he is the real AH
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    Clear-Ad-5165 • 6h ago NTAH - He's a lying cheater. Cheating is never a mistake. The only way is divorce and take him for everything. The only thing you need to talk to him about is when he's moving out and a forwarding address.
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    seofumi • 6h ago NTA. After cheating the first time, the next will become easier and easier. Get it over fast rather than being in more pain later.
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    VariousQuote 1338 6h ago It's 2025 and women don't need to put up with this level of disrespect from men anymore. You are not the ah le. Divorce and keep your dignity. Stay and you loose his respect even more than you already have, he'll
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    never stop. I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than subject myself to this level of mistreatment from some husband. like your
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    butyesandno ⚫ 6h ago Once may be considered a mistake in some cases...his only mistake here was getting caught.
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    Classy Tsjessa ⚫6h ago NTA. Trust is like a paper, once it's crumpled it can't be perfect again. You're not overreacting, you're just respecting yourself. Take your time to figure out what's best for you, not just what's best for the marriage.
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    Choice-Appropriate • 6h ago This is something you may never get over. Betrayal is the worst. Take your time processing. Some couples work through this and some don't. If you didnt see this coming and he was getting away with it, he's a good liar and manipulator.
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    I wouldn't be able to live with it. It would never leave my mind. I would always be suspicious and that's no way to live. Once trust is broken, it's over.

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